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‘My Divorce Is Cheap. But Self-Care Is Costing Me Thousands.’

I met my husband at LaGuardia Airport in 2014, when I was 28. I sat next to him at the gate and was like, “Oh, he’s cute.” Our flight was delayed, so we started talking and wound up getting a drink. Then we kept talking even though we lived in different cities. Within three months, he got a job in New York, where I lived, and soon after that, he moved in with me. He’s always moved fast. When he proposed after three years of dating, he wanted to get married within 30 days, so we eloped.

I’m a planner, and I don’t like to rush into things. But if he likes something, he’s 110 percent committed the moment he discovers it. He was like that with me. He’s like that with his hobbies. He’s…

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